Research on Ego !

The Ego

Ego is a Latin word meaning "I", cognate with the Greek "Εγώ (Ego)" meaning "I", often used in English to mean the "self", "identity" or other related concepts. 

The ego separates us from our surroundings, rather than connecting us to the oneness between humans and the natural world.

This can lead to being out of harmony and full of distress. If we want to enjoy the unfolding of life we can’t let the ego distract us.

The ego is the exact force that gets in the way of experiencing a balanced, meaningful, and significant life.

Warning few signs of ego

1. Is calling with disrespects and shout.

2. You always have to have more.

3. You have to be right always.

4. You feel tense, uncomfortable, with your surroundings and peoples.

5. You must always be winning and you hate losing.

This selfishness rears its head in our everyday dealings and interactions because you set out to live for your ultimate satisfaction (basically, to avoid pain). If you seek pleasure, you’re avoiding pain. As long as it believes it’s here to avoid pain, ego continues to thrive.

You don’t want your happiness conditional upon the behavior of other people. It’s bad enough that your happiness is conditional upon your own behavior.

 The common term for ego used in the Qur'an and Sunnah is "Kibr".

Understandably, the Sahabah (companions of the Muhammad –may Allah’s peace and blessing be upon him) were terrified by this statement.

One of them asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) "I like my dress to be clean and my shoes to be clean" The Prophet(peace be upon him) replied: "That is not it……………  "Kibr is rejecting the truth and belittling people." 

Allah (God) Says in Holy Quran:

“…..False worship (shirk) is indeed the highest wrongdoing” [Luqman 31:13]

That is Allah, your Lord! there is no god but He, the Creator of all things: then worship ye Him: and He hath power to dispose of all affairs. (6:102)

 “Indeed, He (Allah) does not love the proud.” [an-Nahl (16):23]

“So enter the gates of Hell to dwell therein. Indeed evil is the abode of the proud.” [An-Nahl (16):29]

Last Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said (Books of Hadith) :

“Pride is dissatisfaction with the truth, and belittling the people.” [Muslim]

“He will not enter Paradise who has even a speck of pride in his heart.” [Muslim]

The bottom line is that since you approached them in the name of rejection, you’re going to be dancing on the edge of rejection throughout the interaction. Every time you do something in the name of avoiding pain, that something becomes a link that holds the potential to the pain you’re avoiding. In order to assure your acceptance, you try to present yourself a certain way so that you can win friends and influence people.